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Helping you to make the right decisions at the right time to aid in your recovery, we source useful information that can provide great benefits for the difficulties you or a loved one might be facing. Never consider yourself to be alone with your worries or concerns. Have a look at some of our articles to improve your knowledge or find answers or even discover where you can turn for further help and assistance. Ben Selby Counselling is a safe place for all those we help and you can be assured that we will provide you with specific and relevant guidance in any given situation, from counselling & therapy, hypnotherapy and supervision. Feel free to get in touch with us today to see how we can help you.
Surviving an Affair: From Shattered Trust to Rebuilding Connection
Photo by Asad Photo Maldives An affair is one of those moments in life that can feel like the ground has disappeared beneath your feet....
Ben Selby
Oct 4, 20255 min read
Goal Setting: A True Story
Photo by Serkan Göktay A man and woman wanted to go on holiday, but the holiday they wanted was a lot of money, so they couldn’t reach a...
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Oct 4, 20252 min read
Is Laughter the Best Medicine? A Humorous Exploration with a Side of Science
Photo by Helena Lopes At Ben Selby Counselling, there are times when there is laughter alongside the tears. This might sound like the...
Ben Selby
Jul 16, 20255 min read
How to Heal from Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist’s Guide
Photo by MART PRODUCTION Narcissistic abuse can leave deep emotional scars. Whether it’s from a partner, parent, boss, or friend, being...
Ben Selby
Jul 2, 20254 min read
How Do I Know If I Am Being Emotionally Controlled?
Photo by Cottonbro Studio I was asked a question recently, about emotional control: “How do I know if someone is emotionally controlling...
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Jun 25, 20254 min read
5 Grounding Techniques for When You Feel Overwhelmed
Photo by KoolShooters Feeling overwhelmed can strike at any time—whether you're juggling deadlines, managing family stress, or...
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Jun 19, 20254 min read
Why Am I Feeling Numb or Disconnected? Understanding Emotional Numbness
Photo by Jin H Have you ever found yourself sitting in a moment that should feel meaningful—talking with friends, watching your favourite...
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Jun 13, 20255 min read
What Are the Requirements of a Healthy Relationship? A Psychological Perspective
Photo by Juan Goncalves Healthy relationships don’t just happen—they are built. They require intentional effort, emotional maturity, and...
Ben Selby
Jun 2, 20255 min read
Understanding Narcissism in Relationships: What It Is and How It Manifests
Photo by Engin Aykurt Narcissism, a term often tossed around in pop culture, actually has deep psychological roots. At its core,...
Ben Selby
Apr 30, 20254 min read
Understanding Attachment Styles: How They Shape Our Relationships
Photo by ShotPot Attachment styles play a fundamental role in shaping how we form and maintain relationships. First studied by...
Ben Selby
Mar 27, 20253 min read
Understanding Love Identity: The Essence of Who We Are in Love
Photo by Pixabay Love identity is a concept that goes beyond mere emotions and romantic inclinations; it is an intrinsic part of who we are in relationships and how we express love. It encompasses our values, beliefs, attachment styles, and past experience that shape the way we connect with others. Understanding our love identity can lead to deeper, more fulfilling relationships, and self-awareness in matters of the heart. What is Love Identity? Love identity refers to the un
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Mar 21, 20252 min read
“Do you think I might be mad?”
Photo by Nathan Cowley I am always intrigued about the perceptions of people who engage with therapy for the first time. They may be...
Ben Selby
Mar 5, 20252 min read
“Why does this always happen to me?”
Photo by Bas Masseus Invariably, this is one of the most common questions I am asked by clients and potential clients. For me, it is one of the signs that the issues that the client has brought could be helped by a period of therapy. As a person centred therapist, I am continually looking for what we describe as ‘patterns of behaviour’, of the frequency that people through their actions, make the same mistakes or reach the same outcomes, over and over again. Often, the reas
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Mar 5, 20252 min read
Time for a Change?
Photo by KoolShooters I sat aghast in a recent session, when a client expressed their disappointment that the changes they had wanted to...
Ben Selby
Mar 5, 20253 min read
Of course, I blame the parents
Photo by Ingo Joseph A client I am working with at the moment told me during their last session, “I don’t want to sit here and slag off my mum and dad”. I understand that, and of course, we live in a society where there can often be a perception of expectation of loyalty and respect for our parents. I had to reassure my client that this was neither my wish nor intention (although as a Person Centred Counsellor, I was also a little curious as to why the client started talkin
Ben Selby
Mar 5, 20254 min read
“So, why not write a blog?”
Photo by Oladimeji Ajegbile Perhaps because the very thought of the idea terrifies me! What the hell would I write about? I can’t talk...
Ben Selby
Mar 5, 20253 min read
“I think I’m in love with my therapist!”
“I think I’m in love with my therapist!” This is a thought that occurs more frequently than you might imagine and as a result of a...
Ben Selby
Feb 17, 20252 min read
Effective Stress Management Techniques for a Healthy Mind and Body
Develop you own understanding about stress. What causes you to be stressed? Make a list, and then note how you can react to it....
Ben Selby
Oct 30, 20242 min read
Mastering the Art of Self-Discipline: A Scientific Approach to Personal Growth
In the journey of personal development, one trait stands out as a cornerstone for success—self-discipline. Whether you're aiming for...
Ben Selby
Apr 9, 20242 min read
Gaslighting - A Guide To Recognising The Signs
“It’s all in your head.” “You’re just being paranoid.” “I don’t understand why you’re making this into such a big deal…” A new subject...
Ben Selby
Apr 9, 20243 min read
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